If you're dating or are in a relationship with a heterosexually married gay man who is not out to his wife, it's important to question what this says about you.
What draws you to a guy who, from the start, is not available?
THE GOOD NEWS ABOUT DATING A GAY MAN WHO IS HETEROSEXUALLY MARRIED Gay men emerging from their heterosexual marriages can be the best candidates for dating or even a long-term relationship.
They've learned to value relationships and have gained skills that can sometimes be lacking in gay men who've never enjoyed close relationships with women.
Dr Joe Kort is a licensed clinical social worker and board-certified sexologist.
He is best known as the author of 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives.
They know how to deal with their emotions and how to express them, when and how to sacrifice their needs for a relationship, and how to keep connectedness and commitment alive.
Unless we gay men are in some form of positive and healthy relationship with women - straight or lesbian - many of us will miss these lessons.
It's best not to get involved at all until he does leave her and moves on, or at least decides what to do.
Otherwise, you might end up waiting and waiting, with nothing ever changing.
If you're attracted to someone who's married and thus unavailable, that means you're unavailable as well.