Dating after divorce - even the words fill some divorced parents with dread.
The idea of getting back into the dating scene after years being married is daunting at best.
Know yourself, know your children and ask yourself this key question: Is this a decision I think is best for my children, or am I reacting out of guilt or fear?
When should I introduce my new partner to my children?
Most professionals agree that parents should keep their dating relationships private and away from children until the relationship is serious. What you should avoid though is introducing your children to every person you date after your divorce.
But, we humans are instinctively drawn to partnering up.
So chances are very good that sooner or later you (along with nearly every other divorced parent) will be dipping your toe into the waters of dating after divorce.
It takes anywhere from 1-3 years for individuals to emotionally recover from divorce.
In a perfect child-focused world, parents would refrain from dating until they are emotionally ready.
For example, "I'm going to have dinner with a man/woman that I met at work.
We're going to talk for a few hours after dinner and then I'll be home. Chances are good that he or she already has a good idea of what dating is all about! For example, "I'm going out on a date with (person's name) on Friday.
With teens (15-20) it is important to be honest about your actions. It's been long enough after the divorce that I am ready to meet some new people.
I'm wondering how you feel about that." Since your teens are also likely dating, it is important to talk with them about how it may be awkward to have a parent dating at the same time. How will my children be affected by my decision to date?
What you say to your children when you begin dating after your divorce will depend largely on their age. You'll be in bed when I get home."With school-age children (6-10) you can begin to provide more information.