“Good night, sweet Angel,” he texts you, just before you turn off your phone for the night. This may be due to the fact that so many more people today are using dating sites, social networks and various online forums to meet and interact with new people. Sure, he’s an online boyfriend who lives halfway across the world – but he’s the best guy who’s ever come into your life. According to a 2013 study by the market research firm IBISWorld, nearly 35% of married couples met online.
Texting is also good for a quick “had a nice time” or “sleep well” note following a nice date. I can see why even good, solid, single men love texting.
Or a “looking forward to slurping spaghetti with you Friday.” Let him know you’re thinking of him and appreciate him. If he sees your picture and profile and wants to meet you, the hunter in him wants to get directly to the result: meeting you. They feel that chatting first just gets in the way and would rather skip the phone and/or email.
In my college days, many moons ago, I perfected the art of meeting girls online.
Of course, back then, “online” consisted of IRC chat rooms on the IBM Mainframe that connected together the University systems across the state, as well as the online email and electronic bulletin board system that all of the college students used to stay connected to one another. I was painfully shy when meeting new people – bordering on some kind of clinical social anxiety disorder, I’m sure.
I can’t tell you how many emails I’ve received from coaching clients with a text conversation pasted in and the question: What do you think he means (aka WTF)????
You probably know the guy who texts once in a while as a kind of check in.Hot to spot him: Every joke he makes is really funny. In 2012, the Huffington Post reported on a survey conducted by the makers of a mobile pet app, who found that certain breeds of dogs attract the opposite gender more than others. Walk a puppy across a college campus, and you’ll see what I mean. Well, any guy who can express his love for a puppy or a child becomes insanely attractive to most women (especially women dreaming about starting a family).He never misses an opportunity to show off his wit, but his responses are rarely quick. John Grogan, the author of “…it’s all about the dog – and what that tells women: A man who can love, and be loved by, a dog is a man they can trust, a man with good odds of being decent and sincere and in touch with the soft center beneath the hardened shell.”Every male player knows that the only way to grow the tree of desire in your heart is to plant a seed and water it often.“Sue” connected with a man on Tinder, they had a couple emails, and then he started texting. I’m going to give you some straight scoop about what texting really means and doesn’t mean.He sent her pictures of the baseball game he attended. She told him about her car trouble and he responded ‘why didn’t you ask me to come help? And, most importantly, how you can take control of the situation – like a grownup! If you are like Sue, Lila or Melissa, here is what you need to know: Continuous texting, when void of in-person meeting, creates a false sense of connection.Expecting him to move on to something more serious isn’t realistic. There are so many ways to know if a man is a serious guy who is interested in getting to know you. It’s a type of false connection that sets up incredibly unrealistic assumptions and expectations.