You do not send a 'thank-you' follow-up text.
What you want to see after the first date is if he really likes you too.
Here's the problem: Frances' first-date trick works perfectly, but most of us don't to the answer we get.
Raise your hand if you ever fudged the facts in your mind because you really wanted to see things through rose-colored glasses with a promising guy [raises hand! Well, the fudging-of-facts bit carries on throughout a relationship, sometimes keeping us committed to the wrong guy for months (or years).
"If his intentions are sexual, the nature of the conversations will be sexual," says Frances.
He'll invite you out to a nice second-date dinner, and then invite you back to his place.
In other words, it's his most honest moment, and the time for you to ask questions and take the answers at face value .
If you're both looking for the same thing, you've made it through checkpoint number one.*Curveball #1: The guy who texts you nonstop, way too soon.*It's good if a guy isn't afraid to get in touch, but if he launches into constant contact before you've even been on a date, it's a bad sign.
In fact, she's known for helping women weed out the wrong men right on the first date.
In order to do that, she devised a way to tell whether a guy wants the same things as you, which should be the foundation of any long-term relationship (we discussed it here on Smitten a few years ago).
"This guy's going to go into a full-court press right away.